[fusion_text]I’ve been totally addicted to the 2016 US Election and the outrageous antics of Donald Trump. I’ve come to the conclusion that this is because I can relate to so much of his misogynistic behaviour, as I’m sure many, many others can as well.
I wrote a super long blog post a couple of days ago and have decided NOT to post it. It was a cathartic process to just write it out. Instead I thought I would learn from what I wrote.
Shit happens. Unfortunately, sexist, racist, homophobic and many other excuse-driven marginalization of people still does, and will forever, exist as long as humans are alive. I can’t change that on the grand scale.
I can learn from it and use my voice and actions to change what I can within my world. I can be passionate about what I believe. I can see possibilities for a better world one person and one day at a time. I can demand respectful and confident behaviour of myself inspiring others to do the same.
I expect many have been the victim of unwanted behaviour from adults when they were children? Like the upstanding warden in your church who really was creepy guy that warmed up to young girls by giving them candies in exchange for hugs? Or who volunteered with a girls youth group as a driver when they went on excursions so he could drive them home late at night?
And others have been physically violated by a trusted music teacher, youth group leader, relative, or anyone else who already had the trust of their parents!
Or, how about the guy – maybe 10 years older – who feels he has the right to comment on the type of bra you wear based on his visual inspection of you in the workplace? Yeah, this when I was 19 years old. There are still people around who believe they have the right to ogle and comment on a woman’s appearance in a sexual way. Sheesh!
Looking back now, I learned that my responses to some men in my adult life are directly correlated with the experiences mentioned above. I felt responsible for the actions of others towards me. I recoiled, retreated and felt ashamed. Often I normalized and minimized those behaviours or quietly acquiesced. In my early 40s, I found and learned to use my voice. Not all the time, but when it mattered most to me and that was an amazing start.
“You must be the change you want to see in the world.” Ghandi
There are behaviours I will no longer tolerate – sexism, racism, ageism, homophobia or the marginalization of anybody. I am uncomfortable when others participate in this behaviour and am becoming more comfortable saying so. This is a big step for me as I have always preferred being in the background, intentionally not rocking the boat.
Today, however, this horrendous (un)presidential campaign has been a catalyst for me. It h as kicked me in the gut in ways I never imagined. I have a renewed energy and passion for helping people – Every. Single. Person. – know and “believe” they matter.
Every. Single. Person… deserves to be heard and understood!
Every. Single. Person… deserves to be loved and valued!
Every. Single. Person… is entitled to have dreams and the ability to pursue them!
Every. Single. Person… is entitled to make mistakes, learn from them and move forward!
Every. Single. Person… is entitled to be successful … whatever that means for them specifically!
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